After Hours Podcast Ep 4: Why You Erroneously Think Women Like Jerks, Why James Bond is Attractive, and Talking “A Billion Wicked Thoughts”

The most ridiculous sentiment I hear from guys is that “Girls like assholes”, or some variation of that statement.

You can choose to believe that, you give yourself an excuse to not even try. The fact you’re on this page right now tells me you’re open to the idea that this is not the case. Good move. You’ll soon know why.

Women do not like jerks. However, many guys that happen to be jerks share some very attractive traits that typical “nice guys” (I’m not talking about all good people, I’m talking about submissive doormats). Dave (@LS_Vox) and I (@SuleyTheHuman) will break down what it is that makes these guys so attractive, and how you can channel a little bit of your inner bad boy without compromising your morals.

Our second segment is the exciting start of a (yet unnamed) weekly feature, where Dave and I will look at a popular fictional character and adjudicate their “game” if they were to behave that way in the real world. With the recent release of “Skyfall”, and the fact Dave insisted on more local content, we’ll break down for you exactly what it is that makes James Bond attractive to women, and the things he does in the movies that you should never do in real life.

***The idea to go with James Bond was based on an article I read by Evolve at While our styles certainly differ, Evolve has some great posts ***

This week’s interview features Sai Gaddam (@SaiDrGaddam), neuroscientist and co-author of “A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sexual Relationships”. I picked this book up a few months back, and since have recommended it to anyone within earshot. It paints a very clear picture of the differences between the desires of men and women, largely through researching online activity.

Sai doesn’t disappoint. We discuss fantasies, fetishes, how the desires of men and women differ, how Sai was able to predict the success of “50 Shades of Grey” and a myriad of other topics related to human desire. If you want some preconceived notions shattered, Sai Gaddam is your man.

We close the episode out by answering some of your questions, including: When should I buy a drink for a woman?

***WARNING: Some of the language and subject matter we use will offend a segment of the population. If hearing about sex or certain four letter words offend you, please don’t listen***

Click on the player below to listen:

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Next Week: We interview Love Systems instructor Derek Cajun, who many of you have seen from his infamous appearance on “Keys to the VIP”. There is way more to the man than that. In addition to being one of the most famous dating coaches in the world, you may not know, he’s an authority on Online Dating. Plus, he’s a bigger Beach Boys fan than I am. Something that is nearly impossible.

Take this opportunity to send your questions for Derek Cajun to @AfterHoursInc. If you don’t, we’ll spend the whole hour arguing about whose homemade SMiLE mixtape was better.

Also Next Week: In our (still unnamed) fictional character analysis, we break down Ted Mosby, Barney Stinson and Marshall Eriksson from “How I Met Your Mother” it’s going to be Legend… wait for it… until next week.

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Don’t forget to follow the show, Sai, Dave and myself on Twitter. Please continue sending us your questions, show topics, segment ideas and photos of your dogs. This show is to help you get better in whatever romantic struggles you’re going through. We can’t do that as easily without your direction.

We make reference to the article “Why Nice Guys and Gals Finish Last in Love” by: Dr. Jeremy Nicholson

Music Used

  • Intro: Murs – “Bad Man” Album: Murs 3:16: The 9th Edition (2004)
  • Lead In: Jim Johnson – “New Age Outlaws” Album: WWF The Music, Vol. 3 (1998)
  • Outro: The Flaming Lips – “Fight Test” Album: Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots (2002)



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